okay..long details so please bare with me. And I’ll gladly answer any questions if you need more detail in order for me to get the best what to do I can possibly get because I’m about to rip my hair out. this question basically deals with the children, but mostly the oldest, you’ll see what I mean.
Heres the deal. My brother, married at girl at 19, she had a son from a previous relationship. After they were married, they had a baby together who died from a heart defect a month after she was born. They divorced, hating each other within 3 days after the death. Her son, who we came to know as nephew and grandson (for my mom) was now no longer a part of our family. about 2 years later he met a new girl (after a lot of problems between him, my mom and other girls, jobs, etc) where he worked, and she too had a son from a previous marriage, her husband was in jail..and she was still going to visit him in jail while she was dating my brother. They moved in together, and 2 years after that she divorced her husband (who was still in jail) and her and my brother had a son together and they got married..her first son, at this point was 4, but my brother had been in his life as a “daddy” since he was 2. shortly after they were married, my brother joined the army and it wasn’t to long after that, that they were off to hawaii where he was stationed. At this point? the little boy whom my brother was daddy to for about 2 years was now 6, so its now going on 4 years at this point for him being a daddy to him. It was there that they had they’re 3rd child together, a little girl. My brother got stationed in Iraq, but due to family death, was home before his tour was up, and then due to medical problems was released on a medical discharge. So, they move back to Georgia, at this point the boy is 8. well, when they move back..it turns out his wife went through all his money while he was gone and had been cheating on him with several different men for quite some time..she was disgustingly dirty and there were several instances where she left the kids home alone. so, when they both got back to ga…they split up, she moved out of the trailer they were renting, and into a one bedroom house with a guy who was supposedly my brother’s friend. (white trailer yet? not even close, lol) my brother was going to let her stay in the trailer, and move out himself but she didn’t want to wait till the end of the week. anyway..moving on…literally not even 2 weeks after she moves out..the first wife, the one who he had a baby with that died..moves in with him, and her previous son, and a new son from a second marriage that occured after she divorced my brother. When the kids come to the trailer to see daddy, all of a sudden there is this new “mommy” there with her two new boys..who are calling my brother “daddy” and he is calling them his “sons” and the oldest..is told that his room is no longer just his room, and his toys are no longer just his toys and daddy is no longer just his daddy, and in fact has two new children, who he is to consider, his two new brothers. all within a few weeks of daddy coming home from being gone to war. and then , in the midsto f this, during an argument his new exwife girlfriend left, and went back to her other husband, in which the children’s mother then came and took all they’re stuff, toys, clothes, etc, and the kids were doing fine, well then they made up and this girl came back with her two sons again. In the course of all this..someone told this child that “daddy” is actually not his real daddy. he is now 9 by the way. and before all of this even ever occured this little boy would ask why his brother and sister had daddy’s last name but he did not. so the problem? well this child is showing some severe signs of stress..hitting the two new “sons” breaking toys, and physically hurting himself. when asked..about the marks he is causing on himself he tells people that someone did it to him, like my brother, or my brothers girlfriend or one of her kids, etc. his mother says he does not need counseling and therefore will not take him. and since my brother actually has no legal claim to the child, he can’t take him, my brother’s decision is to not allow the child to his house any more..basically he wants to stop being his daddy. but…everyone is blaming this child, my brother, his mother, my brothers exwife who is now his new fiancee, and my mother, his supposed grandmother..they all think he should have adjusted by now, or that circumstances being as they are, should not have affected him this much because everyone else around him, including the other children are all acting fine. and just for somed added info….it hasn’t even been 6 months yet after all this. I am mad at all of them for whats being done to this little boy. any help? just so everyone knows..they have tried everything with him, talking to him, disciplining him, punishments, taking things away. but basically I can tell what he is seeing, I’m o
what he’s seeing is as a 9 year old little boy, he was living in hawaii in a nice house with friends and school that he liked. He moved to georgia into a tiny old trailer. daddy came back, and being 9, not seeing problems between mommy and daddy, all of a sudden mommy and daddy won’t be together anymore. Not only that, but now daddy has moved in a new girl, with two new children, who are now suppose to be his brothers, and his things are no longer just his things, oh..and now he discovers..daddy isn’t really his daddy, all within the course of about 6 months, and he’s suppose to be just fine
well see, thats the problem…I don’t know what exactly I’ve stated int he above, I’m sure I missed alot. His mother won’t take him for counseling and since my brother has no real legal rights to him, he can’t take him. and they have tried talking to him and reassuring him, but he is still acting out, so thats not working. but to just basically be like..I’m not your dad anymore? you not aloud here anymore? to a 9 year old?