Comments on: need help with a child that is not mine, nor any legal connection to me.? http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html All about movies Tue, 19 Apr 2011 01:46:09 +0000 hourly 1 By: ladedamom http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2274 ladedamom Wed, 31 Mar 2010 19:05:28 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2274 Sorry, but this is what happens when people live promiscuous lifestyles and it involves children. Trailer trash personified. Needless to say these people aren't fit to be owners of a dog much less parents to children. Sounds to me like the kid would be better off living with someone else and for someone to call for intervention services to this "family". It doesn't sound like a fit environment to have children in. Would they let him come live with you and sign guardianship over to you so you can make decisions about school, medical care etc.. for this kid? The kid needs stability and this environment isn't it. Sorry, but this is what happens when people live promiscuous lifestyles and it involves children. Trailer trash personified. Needless to say these people aren’t fit to be owners of a dog much less parents to children. Sounds to me like the kid would be better off living with someone else and for someone to call for intervention services to this “family”. It doesn’t sound like a fit environment to have children in. Would they let him come live with you and sign guardianship over to you so you can make decisions about school, medical care etc.. for this kid? The kid needs stability and this environment isn’t it.

]]> By: ppnj4 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2273 ppnj4 Wed, 31 Mar 2010 18:26:13 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2273 For the sake of this child you need to notify the protective services in your area (which you can do on a anonymous basis) that he is hurting himself. They will get him in for an evaluation & counseling. It does not mean they will take him unless they see the parents are hurting him or not feeding him so don't worry about that. He desperately needs help now before he hurts himself or one of the other kids seriously or gets "lost" to a world of anger and bad behavior for ever. If you love him you will notify the school & social services that he hurts himself & needs intervention. It will be the most loving thing you can do for him & shame on the rest of your family for allowing these kids to grow up in such dysfunction. For the sake of this child you need to notify the protective services in your area (which you can do on a anonymous basis) that he is hurting himself. They will get him in for an evaluation & counseling. It does not mean they will take him unless they see the parents are hurting him or not feeding him so don’t worry about that. He desperately needs help now before he hurts himself or one of the other kids seriously or gets “lost” to a world of anger and bad behavior for ever. If you love him you will notify the school & social services that he hurts himself & needs intervention. It will be the most loving thing you can do for him & shame on the rest of your family for allowing these kids to grow up in such dysfunction.

]]> By: Sharoo http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2272 Sharoo Wed, 31 Mar 2010 17:31:11 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2272 I think the way your brother went about this was a bit wrong. (not talking about his gfs/wives whatever) but saying the toy weren't his, he should have been asked if he could share. You could try talking to him about different families and that just because someone isn't your biological father doesn't mean that they can't love you the same as their own son. I do think the boy needs to see an adult councillor. Even call the school and explain things, they might talk to him. If you ever worry about all of the kids safety and well- being call the appropriate child welfare authorities. I think the way your brother went about this was a bit wrong. (not talking about his gfs/wives whatever) but saying the toy weren’t his, he should have been asked if he could share.
You could try talking to him about different families and that just because someone isn’t your biological father doesn’t mean that they can’t love you the same as their own son.
I do think the boy needs to see an adult councillor. Even call the school and explain things, they might talk to him.
If you ever worry about all of the kids safety and well- being call the appropriate child welfare authorities.

]]> By: rafferty http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2271 rafferty Wed, 31 Mar 2010 16:40:38 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2271 gah, what a mess. This is exactly why people say to think of the children first, and exactly what happens when people don't think of the children. Not much you can do other than try to be a stable influence in his life. Are you in a position to make a weekly "play date" with him so that he knows that every single Thursday you will show up and take him someplace, just you and him? I commend you for thinking of this poor kid, but I can't think of a thing you can do other than be a constant in his life to make him feel secure again. He would probably benefit from talking all this out with a professinal, if he would be able to enunciate his feelings. Good luck - and here's hoping that from this moment on - people think of the children first. gah, what a mess. This is exactly why people say to think of the children first, and exactly what happens when people don’t think of the children.

Not much you can do other than try to be a stable influence in his life. Are you in a position to make a weekly “play date” with him so that he knows that every single Thursday you will show up and take him someplace, just you and him?

I commend you for thinking of this poor kid, but I can’t think of a thing you can do other than be a constant in his life to make him feel secure again. He would probably benefit from talking all this out with a professinal, if he would be able to enunciate his feelings.

Good luck – and here’s hoping that from this moment on – people think of the children first.

]]> By: emmers http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2270 emmers Wed, 31 Mar 2010 16:09:38 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2270 wow... that was a long read but had to be done to get the details... My heart goes out to that poor little boy. They just f***ed up his future and they don't even realize it. How could his mother put him in this situation and not do anything to help him? The kid must feel like complete crap...like nobody loves him... of course he's going to act up and freak out.. he is frustrated and so hurt, i am so sad right now. I want to hug him and bring him home with me!! Your brother and his wife need a swift kick in the a** and some parenting lessons. I really hope you can do something for this child... what a burden for you! Good luck! wow… that was a long read but had to be done to get the details…

My heart goes out to that poor little boy. They just f***ed up his future and they don’t even realize it.

How could his mother put him in this situation and not do anything to help him? The kid must feel like complete crap…like nobody loves him… of course he’s going to act up and freak out.. he is frustrated and so hurt, i am so sad right now. I want to hug him and bring him home with me!!

Your brother and his wife need a swift kick in the a** and some parenting lessons.

I really hope you can do something for this child… what a burden for you! Good luck!

]]> By: saved_by_grace http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2269 saved_by_grace Wed, 31 Mar 2010 15:11:59 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2269 This child needs counseling. He has seen a lot in his nine years. No wonder he is acting out. There are free counseling services available in most towns. This child needs counseling. He has seen a lot in his nine years. No wonder he is acting out. There are free counseling services available in most towns.

]]> By: Leo http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2268 Leo Wed, 31 Mar 2010 14:23:49 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2268 Ok your brother needs to understand how he feels. If he loves this little boy he would not suddenly want to stop being like a father to him. That kind of confused me... but I think that someone needs to tell this kid that he isn't being replaced by the two boys and that (if it's true, which i hope it is) that even though your brother is not his real father he loves him like he is his father and he sees him as a son and he always has. Tell him that it doesn't matter who his biological father is - what matters is that he was "father" to him all his life and that shouldn't change,. A lot more than the same blood makes someone a father. Maybe they should spend one on one time together instead of with the other kids. Give him time to adjust. He needs more time.. he is very young and this all must be very hard for him. edit: Clearly you care a lot for this little guy.. maybe who he needs now is you. Arrange some times for you and him to just hang out and talk. Don't make him feel pressured into telling you about his bruises or anything just forget about everything and try to give him a good time. He may just need a break, some time away from this mess. Ok your brother needs to understand how he feels. If he loves this little boy he would not suddenly want to stop being like a father to him. That kind of confused me… but I think that someone needs to tell this kid that he isn’t being replaced by the two boys and that (if it’s true, which i hope it is) that even though your brother is not his real father he loves him like he is his father and he sees him as a son and he always has. Tell him that it doesn’t matter who his biological father is – what matters is that he was “father” to him all his life and that shouldn’t change,. A lot more than the same blood makes someone a father. Maybe they should spend one on one time together instead of with the other kids. Give him time to adjust. He needs more time.. he is very young and this all must be very hard for him.

edit: Clearly you care a lot for this little guy.. maybe who he needs now is you. Arrange some times for you and him to just hang out and talk. Don’t make him feel pressured into telling you about his bruises or anything just forget about everything and try to give him a good time. He may just need a break, some time away from this mess.

]]> By: MsMeg http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2267 MsMeg Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:43:17 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2267 wow...his mother is terrible at the job god gave her....maybe the other children aren't "affected" because they aren't old enough to understand and see as much as he can. I think he needs a stable home and love, its cruel that your brother would disinclude a child. He's not a teenager and this is writing on the slate of he is and who he will become. Honestly you should adopt him. I think God is telling you it is your mission to save him. Any longer in this screwed up situation and he will inevitably grow up to be a criminal....my heart goes out to this poor child he must feel so unwanted. children also have the innate ability to blame themselves for domestic issues and this will affect his mental health and growth. good luck:) wow…his mother is terrible at the job god gave her….maybe the other children aren’t “affected” because they aren’t old enough to understand and see as much as he can. I think he needs a stable home and love, its cruel that your brother would disinclude a child. He’s not a teenager and this is writing on the slate of he is and who he will become. Honestly you should adopt him. I think God is telling you it is your mission to save him. Any longer in this screwed up situation and he will inevitably grow up to be a criminal….my heart goes out to this poor child he must feel so unwanted. children also have the innate ability to blame themselves for domestic issues and this will affect his mental health and growth. good luck:)

]]> By: Alicia http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2266 Alicia Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:21:38 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2266 Of course he needs help and counseling. This would be too much for an adult to take. Can you take him to church and talk to the minister? That could be getting him the counseling he needs without his mother's being involved to take him. Of course he needs help and counseling. This would be too much for an adult to take. Can you take him to church and talk to the minister? That could be getting him the counseling he needs without his mother’s being involved to take him.

]]> By: iiidontknowdoyou http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-2265 iiidontknowdoyou Wed, 31 Mar 2010 12:52:17 +0000 http://www.movie-summary.com/2010/03/31/need-help-with-a-child-that-is-not-mine-nor-any-legal-connection-to-me.html#comment-2265 Nothing you can do about red neck white trash families, but is sure is a shame for the poor kids! Nothing you can do about red neck white trash families, but is sure is a shame for the poor kids!

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